Prince Harry told Oprah Winfrey that his family refused to help with the media bombing and social media abuse directed at his wife, Meghan Markle.
“I think my family would help, but any questions, requests, warnings, whatever they are, are just greeted with total silence or total neglect,” the Duke of Sussex said in an interview for Apple TV docs. Miu Don’t See Me, which was released on the streaming platform on Friday.
“It was one of the biggest reasons aside,” she said, referring to the couple decision to step back from real life. “Feeling trapped and feeling controlled by fear, both from the media and from the [royal] system itself, which has never encouraged talking about this type of trauma. But surely now, I will never be silently intimidated. ”
He said he felt compelled to take his family away from real life after the Duchess of Sussex told him she felt suicidal while she was 6 months pregnant with her son, Archie and knew that “she wasn’t going to come from [his] family ”the kind of help he and Meghan needed.
“I then had a son who preferred to just focus only on me, rather than every time I look him in the eyes I wonder if my wife will end up like my mother and I will take care of him myself,” she said.
The interview began streaming a day after Harry and his brother, Prince William, blamed on media culture, and the BBC specifically, for having contributed to the death of her mother by persecuting her and predicting what William called her “fear, paranoia and isolation”.
Harry told Oprah that he could see how Meghan was treated by the media reporting to her how she felt as a child watching her mother persecuted by the paparazzi “every day until the day of her death.”
He also said the advent of social media platforms adds “a new depth” to the constant abuse of media, such as the fact that Meghan is biracial.
“My mother was chased to her death while she was in a relationship with someone who was not white [Dodi Al-Fayed]. And now look at what happened. Want to talk about repeating history? They won’t stop until she dies, ”she said.“ It’s incredibly shocking to potentially lose another woman in my life. However, the list grows. And it all comes back to the same people, the same business model, the same industry. ”
Harry has spoken with force in the past against the British media – in particular, the outlets, including the tabloids, which make up the royal family’s official printing system, known as the “Royal Rota” – on what he said he was prejudicial, unjust and racist, especially of Meghan. He and his wife have both filed lawsuits against newspapers for violations of privacy. (Harry process against the owners of the British tabloids the Sun, the Mirror, and the now-disappeared news of the world for alleged telephone piracy are underway; Meghan effectively win she process against the editor of the Sunday Mail and the Daily Mail for printing a letter she sent to her foreign father.)
Immediately after stepping back from real life, Harry and Meghan’s press team effective cut off the four tabloids on the Royal Wheel – the Sun, the Mirror, the Mail and the Express – essentially establish a policy of “no corroboration and zero engagement”. In their statement announcing the decision, published on April 19, 2020, Harry and Meghan said they would not “offer themselves as a currency for a clickbait and distortion economy.”
The prince told Winfrey that the start of therapy after meeting Meghan made him realize that he had “lived in a bubble in this family, in this institution, and I was almost trapped in a process of thought or mentality “
“The feeling of being trapped in the family is – there was no option to leave. In the end, when I made this decision for my family, I was even told, ‘You can’t do this,’ and it’s like “Well, how much damage does it take to get until I’m allowed to do that? ‘He was going to end his life. It shouldn’t have to happen, ”he said.
Harry also called specifically on his father, Prince Charles, for him and his brother to believe that the constant abuse of the media and the tribute that mental health takes were only part of being a member of the royal family.
“My dad used to tell me when I was younger, he used to say to William and me, ‘Well, it was so for me, then it will be so for you,'” Harry said. It doesn’t make sense! Just because you’ve suffered, that doesn’t mean that your children are going to suffer. In fact, quite the opposite. If you have suffered, do everything you can to make sure that all of that … negative experiences that you have had, that you can do well for your children. “
“We’ve chosen to put our mental health first. That’s what we do and that’s what we will continue to do,” Harry said. “Isn’t it just about breaking the cycle? Isn’t it just about making sure history doesn’t repeat itself? That all the pain and suffering has happened to you that you don’t pass on?”
The Prince and Winfrey co-produce Miu Don’t See Me and have been working on it since 2019.