Peggy Fitzsimmons, curator and counselor, who has helped fifteen years to clear the rubbish from her life, suggests that decluttering isn’t about making space – it’s a spiritual pursuit in its own right.
The new book by Fitzsimmons, Release: Create a Spooky and Animated Life, is a guide to letting go of things, be it physical belonging, mental and emotional accumulation, stagnant energy or acidic relationships. By inspecting every area of our lives and making decisions about what stays and what goes, says Fitzsimmons, we can find what is most true for us. The excerpt below, from chapter five of Release, offers seven questions to ask to determine if something is worth keeping.
The questions below are the roadmap for your declining journey. Ask them everything in your life and listen closely to the answers. If you follow this card, the things in your life that are in alignment with your soul, and the things that are not, will begin to reveal themselves. And you will be on the road to freedom.
Does it contribute to the intention of my soul?
Does this thought, feeling, energy, way of relating or possessing contribute to the intention of your soul? For example, does it help you feel spacious, or live easily and efficiently, or feel light, bright, relaxed, and busy? This demand cuts directly to what is essential. It’s really the only question you need to declutter. An unanswered question indicates that it is time to let go of something. Easy enough, but your ego mind makes it complicated. He will examine and refute and disturb and joke. He will do his best to keep you from doing things that do not contribute to your soul’s intention. The rest of the questions will help you make decisions that support the knowledge of your soul.
Is it beautiful?
Is this thought, feeling, energy, mode of relationship or possession beautiful? This is pretty simple, but a caveat here. You may be able to say, “Yes, it’s a beautiful abstract painting,” but if you prefer realistic paintings, you would be a candidate for liberation. Like anything else that is not in line with your soul’s preference for beauty. If it’s not good did you, let it be.
Is it useful?
Is this thought, feeling, energy, way of relating or possessing useful? You are looking for things that contribute to your effectiveness in life and give you the power to do the things that your soul wants you to do. This question seems self-explanatory, but be aware when answering it. You may say, “Well, this belief that I need everyone’s approval has helped me stay safe in my life, so yes, it’s helpful,” but the truth is, it prevents you from living life to your fullest. way. Or you might say, “Yeah, these ski poles are very useful,” but the truth is that you stopped skiing years ago. Be clear that whatever it is, it is really helpful to live the intention of your soul now. If that doesn’t work for you, let it go.
Do you love me again?
Does this thought, feeling, energy, way of relating or possession love you? The things you love and that love you again make your heart sing. They feel good. In his presence, your energy ignites and he says, “Oh, I LOVE that!”
Be curious if the things in your life evoke this kind of feeling. Or are they more like the vase your ex-husband’s parents gave you: that ugly yellow one with the little red hummingbirds that makes you cringe every time you see it? Or the feeling of shame that comes over you when you compare your body to airbrushed models in magazines? Or your frustration when random things get stuck in the living room closet every time you clear the void? These are examples of things you don’t love. They hit you with an energy current that is not true for you. It is not wise to submit to that repeatedly. If he doesn’t love you again, let him run.
Is it in the present tense?
Is this thought, feeling, energy, mode of relationship or possession in the present tense? Most of us don’t live in the present. Or we are in the past tense, which is the land of memories, obsolete beliefs, or emotions loaded with other times and places; or in the future time, which is the land of fear and planning. If you’re in the past, you’ll find yourself thinking and talking a lot about the days before. You may glorify old relationships, or complain about how big you were at six, or tell repeated stories of the trials and tribulations of your life. You’ll have skinny clothes in your closet, an archive that just opened, and regret that you didn’t say yes to that job offer five years ago. You will feel guilty or sad or angry more often than you are interested in admitting.
If you are in the future time, you will find yourself looking at what can happen. Plan ahead to the point of missing the moment or be hyper-vigilant throughout to be able to handle any impending disaster. You will be able to helicopter to everyone in your life and be proud to anticipate “their” needs. You’ll have greasy clothes in your closet, an overabundance of worries, and lots of brown food bags stuffed into the space between the fridge and the kitchen cupboard. You’ll be ready for any eventuality, and feel yourself saying things like “I have to keep this, just in case,” or “I may need one day,” or “What if …?”
Remember, the ego does its best to keep you in the past and future. But our soul is at home in the present time, dancing with life as it is, moment by moment. When we live in the present time, our physical environments reflect who we are now, and what our lives are like now. We are willing to experience the moments when they come, without rushing ahead or holding on. We hope that everything we really need comes to us at the perfect time and in the best way, and that we have, and always have, the flexibility and ability to respond to everything that happens in our lives. If something isn’t in present time, let it go.
Does it have a sacred place to live?
Does this thought, feeling, energy, way of relating or possessing have a sacred place to live? Think of it this way. Of all the things in this great big world, you have chosen this particular one to fill your inner and outer spaces. The fact that you choose it makes it automatically sacred. So, you have to honor him and appreciate his service for you. You have to make sure he has a sacred place to live. If it is a possession, treat it with respect by keeping it and the place where it is kept clean and tidy. Even if it’s relegated to a drawer or closet or closet in the garage, make sure it’s easy to see, easy to walk, and easy to find. Whether it’s a thought, a feeling, an energy, or a relationship that you choose to maintain, it should also be given a place of honor. It must be visible, accessible and appreciated. An open soul lives transparently, with everything in its place. If you can’t find a sacred place for something to live in, let it go.
Does it help me serve my love to the world?
Does this thought, feeling, energy, mode of relationship or possession help you to serve your love to the world? We are here to be of service sharing our love. Your soul knows the unique ways you are destined to love. You always had a certain way, certain skills, certain gifts, and certain dreams of who you wanted to be and what you wanted to do. When you share your love with the world, you know it. Your heart is open, alive with intention and purpose. You are in your natural flow, with nothing stopping your river of fire and energy. You receive more than you can ever give. If something in your inner or outer spaces doesn’t help you serve your love to the world, it doesn’t serve you anymore. Let it be.
Extracted with permission from Waterside Productions.
Peggy Fitzsimmons he is a counselor, a healer, and an author focused on intensive declination. For twenty-five years, he has helped people recover from mental health problems and addiction in clinical settings and through desert therapy. Fitzsimmons holds a doctorate in counseling psychology from Arizona State University, and is trained in Hakomi somatic therapy and intuitive energy healing. His first book is Release: Create a Spooky and Animated Life.
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